Food for Thought
this was too juicy to ignore. I'll post my thoughts later.
All I can say for now is that this woman should buy a clue.
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I've tried to dissect this article and make comments on it. But it is so badly written that I feel like I am taking advantage of the woman who wrote it. However, I'm in a foul mood today and I would rather vent my ire on this than kick a hole through the wall of our office.
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I could be equally flippant and say that this is the vigorous ranting of a weight-challenged has-been ad exec who, although fairly successful by capitalizing on her lipidinous tendencies by putting up a shop called Luscious for voluptous women, has been embittered by the lack of experience of the joys of wanting to be with someone the rest of her life. Maybe she never loved anyone enough, or maybe no one ever loved her enough.
Do you see how stupid / ignorant / weightist / presumptous that reaction would be?
That is similar to the line of thinking she had while writing the article. Talk about the article being rife with logical inconsistensies. And it's not even witty. Heeeh.
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Allow me to post my favorite part: (on prenuptial agreements)
You just have to be pragmatic with your life in order to survive. It is nice to hope that the marriage will last forever - if it does, all well and good - but what happens when it doesn't? It's bad enough that you suffer emotionally from heartache, but does your bank account have to suffer, too? There is nothing worse than being heartbroken and not being able to go shopping to relieve the pain because you're too concerned about the grocery budget for your kids. If your marriage breaks down you should be able to still buy that Gucci or Prada bag and charge it to your ex-husband!
See?
I don't have anything against prenuptial agreements if both parties are agreeable to it. But how is it possible that you want your property separated after marriage, but you get to buy a Gucci and Prada bag and charge it to your ex-husband after the breakup? And isn't feeding the kids the responsibility of both people when they break up???
Sorry, but that is so BOBO.
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It's boring to get into a battle of wits with the unarmed.
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Fierce and Fabulous
For Brides Over 30
By Malu Fernandez
People Asia Magazine 08/26/2004
image from Philstar.com
June is normally the month for weddings and "June Brides," so this month weddings will, as usual, be in abundance. More often than not weddings are ideally romantic and ethereal for couples in love. When one attends a wedding, one usually expects to see a beautiful, blushing young bride walking down the aisle in a pristine white gown and a handsome, virile young groom waiting by the altar.
That's all very nice and movie-like, but what happens when you get married and you're over 30? With the economy the way it is and people becoming more liberal, more and more people are getting married later in life. So here are some things to think about when you get married past 30.
When you're over 30 are you expected to walk down the aisle in white? Or worse, do you expect to walk down the aisle in white? White represents purity and innocence and if you're thinking you're fooling everyone by representing yourself as innocent and pure at the age of 30, then you're just plain delusional. At 30 and above, a champagne-colored gown or off-white dress should be de rigueur. With Filipino standards for young marriages, walking down the aisle in white at the age of 30 and above will just emphasize the fact that you have been a swinging spinster longer than you should have been.
And what about those announcements in the newspapers? Even worse! I firmly believe that you should only be in the newspaper three times in your life: once when you're born, once when you get married, and once when you die. But in this case, when you're above 30, it's kind of embarrassing to announce to the world you finally snagged a man; it raises all kinds of questions among all those people you hardly know. They usually think, "It's about time!" Or, "What! She's only getting married? She should be on her first divorce at this age!"
One more thing in this country I simply don't understand: Why the hell do men and women over 25 still live at home with their parents? It's called getting out and living in the real world, people. HELLO! But if you still live at home with your parents at the age of 30, then you're a bigger loser than I thought. Because at 30 you should already have your own home, fully furnished and stocked up and any gifts from the houseware department of Rustan's should just be luxuries, not necessities. As for bridal showers, if you don't own any sexy lingerie or Victoria's Secret underwear by the age of 30 and above then you're either not having sex with your fiance or the sex must be awful and he is marrying you for your money (if you have any)! Then again, when one is desperate it never fails to flex the power of your checkbook.
Another thing to remember at the age of 30 and above: pre-nuptial agreements are a must to protect your assets from gold-digging men or to get money from that rich husband. Let's face it: with the economy this bad, one must be practical. To think that love is forever is just stupid and dumb. You just have to be pragmatic with your life in order to survive. It is nice to hope that the marriage will last forever - if it does, all well and good - but what happens when it doesn't? It's bad enough that you suffer emotionally from heartache, but does your bank account have to suffer, too? There is nothing worse than being heartbroken and not being able to go shopping to relieve the pain because you're too concerned about the grocery budget for your kids. If your marriage breaks down you should be able to still buy that Gucci or Prada bag and charge it to your ex-husband!
"The Despidida de Soltera" (marriage send-off) has a completely different meaning in the USA; it's called "The Rehearsal Dinner." Here, why does it symbolize being given away by the family? It's so sexist! By the time you're 30 you have given everything away already. Why pretend your parents are giving away a virginal bride? It's so pretentious. It's not like they are giving you away with a dowry (unless you want to be treated like a middle-eastern woman: no dowry, no marriage).
After reading this you may all think 1 am crazy or antimarriage. I'm definitely not anti-marriage. A little crazy, maybe, but I'm simply very pragmatic about marriage after the age of 30. By the age of 30 the chances of your being hit by lightning are higher than the odds of finding a good husband. Most of the men available for women over 30 are in serious need of damage control. That's enough to deal with, so why deal with all the other extras you don't need when getting married? One should grow old gracefully with dignity and style and not prance around like an 18-year-old who has had her first serious boyfriend. Hey, even Madonna is keeping it simple. So take z cue from that and remember the difference between an 18year-old and how old you are now. Doesn't it feel great to be where you are right now? Don't be afraid to show it! Jus remember, if all else fails buy a ticket to Vegas and elope: it'; cheaper than a big wedding.
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How's this for a statistic. It is more likely for single, professional Filipino woman of 30+ years to get married in an elaborate celebration in-country than to get a first-time US visa approved for her Las Vegas wedding.
And yes, I made that up too hahah.
All I can say for now is that this woman should buy a clue.
________________________
I've tried to dissect this article and make comments on it. But it is so badly written that I feel like I am taking advantage of the woman who wrote it. However, I'm in a foul mood today and I would rather vent my ire on this than kick a hole through the wall of our office.
________________________
I could be equally flippant and say that this is the vigorous ranting of a weight-challenged has-been ad exec who, although fairly successful by capitalizing on her lipidinous tendencies by putting up a shop called Luscious for voluptous women, has been embittered by the lack of experience of the joys of wanting to be with someone the rest of her life. Maybe she never loved anyone enough, or maybe no one ever loved her enough.
Do you see how stupid / ignorant / weightist / presumptous that reaction would be?
That is similar to the line of thinking she had while writing the article. Talk about the article being rife with logical inconsistensies. And it's not even witty. Heeeh.
________________________
Allow me to post my favorite part: (on prenuptial agreements)
You just have to be pragmatic with your life in order to survive. It is nice to hope that the marriage will last forever - if it does, all well and good - but what happens when it doesn't? It's bad enough that you suffer emotionally from heartache, but does your bank account have to suffer, too? There is nothing worse than being heartbroken and not being able to go shopping to relieve the pain because you're too concerned about the grocery budget for your kids. If your marriage breaks down you should be able to still buy that Gucci or Prada bag and charge it to your ex-husband!
See?
I don't have anything against prenuptial agreements if both parties are agreeable to it. But how is it possible that you want your property separated after marriage, but you get to buy a Gucci and Prada bag and charge it to your ex-husband after the breakup? And isn't feeding the kids the responsibility of both people when they break up???
Sorry, but that is so BOBO.
________________________
It's boring to get into a battle of wits with the unarmed.
________________________
Fierce and Fabulous
For Brides Over 30
By Malu Fernandez
People Asia Magazine 08/26/2004
image from Philstar.com
That's all very nice and movie-like, but what happens when you get married and you're over 30? With the economy the way it is and people becoming more liberal, more and more people are getting married later in life. So here are some things to think about when you get married past 30.
When you're over 30 are you expected to walk down the aisle in white? Or worse, do you expect to walk down the aisle in white? White represents purity and innocence and if you're thinking you're fooling everyone by representing yourself as innocent and pure at the age of 30, then you're just plain delusional. At 30 and above, a champagne-colored gown or off-white dress should be de rigueur. With Filipino standards for young marriages, walking down the aisle in white at the age of 30 and above will just emphasize the fact that you have been a swinging spinster longer than you should have been.
And what about those announcements in the newspapers? Even worse! I firmly believe that you should only be in the newspaper three times in your life: once when you're born, once when you get married, and once when you die. But in this case, when you're above 30, it's kind of embarrassing to announce to the world you finally snagged a man; it raises all kinds of questions among all those people you hardly know. They usually think, "It's about time!" Or, "What! She's only getting married? She should be on her first divorce at this age!"
One more thing in this country I simply don't understand: Why the hell do men and women over 25 still live at home with their parents? It's called getting out and living in the real world, people. HELLO! But if you still live at home with your parents at the age of 30, then you're a bigger loser than I thought. Because at 30 you should already have your own home, fully furnished and stocked up and any gifts from the houseware department of Rustan's should just be luxuries, not necessities. As for bridal showers, if you don't own any sexy lingerie or Victoria's Secret underwear by the age of 30 and above then you're either not having sex with your fiance or the sex must be awful and he is marrying you for your money (if you have any)! Then again, when one is desperate it never fails to flex the power of your checkbook.
Another thing to remember at the age of 30 and above: pre-nuptial agreements are a must to protect your assets from gold-digging men or to get money from that rich husband. Let's face it: with the economy this bad, one must be practical. To think that love is forever is just stupid and dumb. You just have to be pragmatic with your life in order to survive. It is nice to hope that the marriage will last forever - if it does, all well and good - but what happens when it doesn't? It's bad enough that you suffer emotionally from heartache, but does your bank account have to suffer, too? There is nothing worse than being heartbroken and not being able to go shopping to relieve the pain because you're too concerned about the grocery budget for your kids. If your marriage breaks down you should be able to still buy that Gucci or Prada bag and charge it to your ex-husband!
"The Despidida de Soltera" (marriage send-off) has a completely different meaning in the USA; it's called "The Rehearsal Dinner." Here, why does it symbolize being given away by the family? It's so sexist! By the time you're 30 you have given everything away already. Why pretend your parents are giving away a virginal bride? It's so pretentious. It's not like they are giving you away with a dowry (unless you want to be treated like a middle-eastern woman: no dowry, no marriage).
After reading this you may all think 1 am crazy or antimarriage. I'm definitely not anti-marriage. A little crazy, maybe, but I'm simply very pragmatic about marriage after the age of 30. By the age of 30 the chances of your being hit by lightning are higher than the odds of finding a good husband. Most of the men available for women over 30 are in serious need of damage control. That's enough to deal with, so why deal with all the other extras you don't need when getting married? One should grow old gracefully with dignity and style and not prance around like an 18-year-old who has had her first serious boyfriend. Hey, even Madonna is keeping it simple. So take z cue from that and remember the difference between an 18year-old and how old you are now. Doesn't it feel great to be where you are right now? Don't be afraid to show it! Jus remember, if all else fails buy a ticket to Vegas and elope: it'; cheaper than a big wedding.
________________________
How's this for a statistic. It is more likely for single, professional Filipino woman of 30+ years to get married in an elaborate celebration in-country than to get a first-time US visa approved for her Las Vegas wedding.
And yes, I made that up too hahah.
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