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Confusion ---> Anticipation

During a phone call earlier today, Joel and I got into a discussion about the wedding and expenses. This all started because I had asked him to buy some streamer throws for the church exit.

I think Jo finds me a bit maarte about the wedding, and finds the costs a bit extravagant. He's been muttering about about that "female bride thing" :S

Jo: I can't believe you're obsessing about the wedding details....it is so unlike you

Mai: Eh? I'm not.

Jo: You never seemed the type, it seems to girly for you.

Mai: Eh? Moi???

Jo: Yes, you.
I'm taking some offense at this because I don't think I'm doing that at all. No, things aren't cheap, and I really make it a point to consider costs when selecting items / suppliers / etc. I don't feel na I am obsessing about all the details naman (ok. I admit I did about the invitations, pero yun lang, really.... :P ) I just like nice things.

I also don't want Jo to think na I am settling for things lang just because we are trying to meet a budget. I really really like all the suppliers we've gotten, and am not feeling bad at all about having to consider costs while planning the wedding.

After much discussion, we actually got to realise that our points of comparison for an "extravagant wedding" were poles apart. Noone is wrong naman talaga, we've just been exposed to different things. Everything is relative.

I can't believe we never discussed this before.
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It's a bit of a wakeup call to realise that even if Jo and I have been going out for 13 years, there are still a lot things we need to learn about each other. On the one hand, it is a bit scary....because you never really know each other. On the other hand...it is also exciting, because being together will be a continous period of discovery, connecting, and learning to grow with each other.
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I used to have this fear of marriage connected to waking up one day and thinking "Who IS this person I married?" Pero I don't think I am that apprehensive anymore.


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